Saturday, September 29, 2018

Teach the Children Well

I wanted to point to another story here about the good old boys and their issues regarding sex and harassment.

I never tire looking as the snotty tear stained face of Kavanaugh denying he did anything wrong and refusing an FBI investigation to prove his innocence.  If he did nothing wrong and had nothing to hide why then.   Gee I wonder when he was a Judge how he would rule if say a black man was before him denying his guilt and there was no evidence either of his crime and yet the Prosecution is sure it was he who raped/killed/harmed an individual.  Me think one doth protest too much.  He is truly the Choir/Alter Boy that epitomizes the Catholic Church - angry rage filled denial covered with prayer.  He learned his lessons well.  Children are mirrors of the adults around them. 

But here is just a brief roundup of editorials, stories and sordid tales that are about bringing harm to children. They didn't even need a beer. 

Here in Nashville I have lost counts of the raging sex allegations, abuse and arrests of varying Teachers and Admins, not including the never ending violence on the part of the students which includes rape, it makes you wonder how the pants of Jesus are held up here as the belt and the buckle are fucking broken.  Well that is how you used to be disciplined in schools.  Brings a nasty image doesn't it - a man taking off his belt and a child bent over has he is beaten.  Catholic Priests at least gave a nice gift of a cross afterwards, better to tag one's victims that overt bruises.

ADMITTED! Metro Lawyers Admit Some Harassment Claims Are True
Phil Williams
2:44 PM, Sep 24, 2018
11:00 PM, Sep 24, 2018

Lawyers for Metro Schools now admit some of the horrific sexual harassment allegations against a former middle school principal are true. Those stunning admissions come in response to a lawsuit involving Dr. Sam Braden, former executive principal for John F. Kennedy Middle School in Antioch.

NASHVILLE, Tenn. - Lawyers for Metro Schools now admit some of the horrific sexual harassment allegations against a former middle school principal are true.

Those stunning admissions come in response to a lawsuit involving Dr. Sam Braden, former executive principal for John F. Kennedy Middle School in Antioch.

NewsChannel 5 legal analyst Jim Todd called the admissions "abnormal."

"It's like pleading guilty at arraignment when you are first charged with a crime," Todd said. "You generally don't do that because you want to make sure the state can prove you guilty beyond a reasonable doubt."

After NewsChannel 5 Investigates first exposed the allegations against Braden, Metro Schools Director Dr. Shawn Joseph had accused us of blowing things out of proportion. School board members say he privately assured them there was nothing to the allegations.

But now, in response to the lawsuit filed by one former and two current Metro Schools employees, the district's own lawyers have filed an answer saying some of the most serious allegations are "admitted."

Jim Todd said he's never seen a lawsuit where the defendants admitted to so much so early.

"Generally a lawyer will deny and demand strict proof to test the evidence through discovery before going back and admitting anything, and they haven't done that here," he added.

A lawyer for Braden, who was sued personally, filed a response denying all the allegations.

In the case of teacher Sonji Collins, the lawsuit says that after Braden's arrival at JFK Middle, the principal "began making sexual advances' towards her. His "demands escalated in intensity and frequency and took on a more threatening physical element."

Metro's response?


Collin's lawsuit alleges that Braden "frequently bragged about his penis size being 'nine or ten inches.'" He "referred to himself as 'Big Daddy' and informed people that they 'couldn't handle Big Daddy,'" the lawsuit added.

That allegation was "admitted" by Metro lawyers.

There was also the claim that, after Braden found out "Collins' boyfriend had tragically committed suicide almost two decades ago," he "began making outrageous statements and spread false rumors that [she] had murdered her boyfriend."

Again, it was "admitted."

Then, after former coach Sherman Swindall accused Braden of sexual harassing him, the lawsuit claims Braden approached the school bookkeeper and a front desk clerk "and requested that they provide him with a false statement that Swindall was habitually late to work."

Metro lawyers admitted it's true.

Despite multiple complaints about Braden, Metro Schools did nothing for months until after our reports.

Braden was finally put on administrative leave, then he decided to retire.

Jim Todd says the crux of the case against Metro Schools now becomes: when did they learn about the harassment and what did they do about it?

"It's not just that it happened, it's that we knew about it and did nothing," Todd said. "So I don't see them admitting to knowing about it and doing nothing. But I do see them admitting to it happening, and that's just very significant."

The lawsuit also argues that, when individuals complained about Braden's behavior, Metro Schools conducted what were essentially sham investigations.

In their answer, however, the city's lawyers deny that the investigations were shams.

A teacher forced her student into sex — and docked his grade after he refused, suit says

By Kristine Phillips
September 25 at 3:45 PM

A 27-year-old math teacher, Jennifer Olajire-Aro, coerced a 17-year-old student into having sex with her, repeatedly threatening to dock his grades if he refused, according to a lawsuit filed by the South Carolina teenager and his mother.

The sexual advances had become so “public, direct, and obvious” that the student avoided Aro’s classes at Burke High School in Charleston, aware that administrators, other teachers and his classmates knew about them, the lawsuit says. The sexual encounters ended in December, after the teen refused to have sex with Aro — who then lowered his grade from 98 to 89 out of 100, according to the lawsuit.

The teen and his mother sued Aro’s employer, the Charleston County School District, accusing officials of not quickly investigating Aro despite a history of sexual misconduct in the district. The lawsuit, filed last week in Charleston County Circuit Court, comes amid an investigation of the district’s handling of separate allegations against a different school employee, who was reportedly promoted despite accusations that he had used a school computer to view child pornography. That employee was later accused of molesting two students.

Jennifer Olajire-Aro is accused of forcing a 17-year-old student to have sex with her. Aro is a teacher at the Charleston County School District in South Carolina. (Charleston County Sheriff's Office)

“They’d known about the propensity of their employees to have some type of sexual exploitations, and therefore they were all on notice,” said Mark Peper, who represents the teen and his mother, neither of whom is named in the lawsuit. “It’s just clear to me that they just didn’t care. It’s just a complete lack of oversight and supervision from the district itself. It’s a pattern.”

A schools spokeswoman said the district does not comment on pending litigation.

Aro, now 28, was charged in December with sexual battery of a student. Her attorney, J. Kevin Holmes, did not return a call seeking comment Tuesday. During Aro’s bond hearing shortly after her arrest, Holmes said she did not have a criminal record or disciplinary history at the school and had received teaching awards, the Post and Courier reported. She taught pre-calculus and algebra and is married with a baby girl.

But Peper said Aro was “hellbent” on having a sexual relationship with the student. She began flirting with the teen after she became his math teacher at Burke High in August 2017. She talked to him about sex before, during and after class, and made sexual advances in plain view of other teachers and students, the lawsuit alleges.

[‘Anyone could molest you’: Boy tells parents about sexual encounters with middle school teacher]

In November and December, Aro “encouraged and coerced” the teen to have sex with her on several occasions and at different places: at the school, in her car, in her home. At least once, it happened around Aro’s 10-month-old baby, the lawsuit says.

When the teen resisted, Aro turned to blackmail, Peper said.

“Each time he would show his hesitancy to continue this forced sexual relationship, she would remind him that she alone controls his grade,” Peper said.

Peper alleged that school administrators and teachers who knew about the misconduct did not report it to school officials.

“At this particular high school, all the teachers are very close. . . . It would shock me if the teacher herself didn’t share with other teachers what was going on with her student,” he said.

“We’ve all been in high school,” he added. “You can’t keep that kind of rumor mill under wraps. That gets around, and teachers are the first to pick up on that. . . . The bottom line is that if anyone knew about it, including teachers, they had an affirmative duty to inform the school administrators.”

The teen’s classmates knew about it, too, and teased him for being a “teacher’s pet, among other things,” Peper said.

The teen, the suit says, didn’t say anything about the teacher to his mother for weeks, fearing that Aro would dock his grade as she had threatened to do. But in December, he decided he couldn’t go on.

[Teacher accused of having sexual relations with student who allegedly tried to kill himself]

“He put his foot down and said, ‘You do what you got to do. I’m just not doing this anymore with you,’ ” Peper said.

Aro then docked the teen’s fall-semester grade by 11 points, the lawsuit says. He told his mother, who immediately reported the allegations to police and school officials. But Peper said the district did not investigate until about three weeks later, and Aro was arrested.

Erica Taylor, the district spokeswoman, said Aro was immediately placed on administrative leave and was fired in January, the month after she was charged.

The district has been facing criticism for its handling of sexual allegations against a former employee at another school. Marvin Gethers was promoted to a higher-paying job in 2014 and became employee of the year in 2015 — both after an IT specialist found that he had accessed child pornography from his school laptop, WCSC reported.

Gethers was arrested in 2016, after which time two children told police that he had molested them in 2015, the Post and Courier reported. Gethers was later charged with sexual exploitation of a minor and multiple counts of criminal sexual misconduct with a minor, online court records show. He died of heart failure in July 2017 and was never tried.

Taylor said the school district fired Gethers once officials learned of the allegations against him. She said school officials who were in charge in 2014, when Gethers was promoted, are no longer with the district.

Current officials have also hired outside counsel to investigate the allegations against Gethers and the district’s handling of the situation, and to “advise on ways to avoid a situation like [this] from ever happening again,” Taylor said.

And look another story from a very religious part of America... Pray for it to end..

A young man who served as an instructor at a Mormon church in Texas admitted that he sexually assaulted children, authorities said.

Police said 22-year-old Noel Anderson, who was a primary instructor at the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Dallas suburb of McKinney, Tex., abused four children between the ages of 2 and 6. The crimes happened over seven years, during which time Anderson met the children through church meetings and other activities, according to the McKinney Police Department.t)

Anderson has been charged with aggravated sexual assault of a child, a first-degree felony, and indecency with a child, a second-degree felony. He was arrested last month and is being held on a $200,000 bond, online records show. His attorney did not immediately return a call Monday.

Police suspect that there might have been more victims and are urging parents to speak with their children if they had been in Anderson’s care.

The Washington Post was unable to reach the McKinney congregation Monday, but church officials said in a statement to NBC affiliate KXAS-TV that they are cooperating with investigators.

“Children are precious, and our hearts go out to the victims and their families. We stand ready to offer love, emotional support and professional counseling for them. We are grateful for their courage in reporting this to law enforcement, and we support the efforts of legal authorities to ensure justice is served in these cases. … Anyone who engages in such behavior is rightfully subject to criminal prosecution and will also face discipline from the Church, including loss of Church membership.”

[Sexual abuse case against Mormon Church begins in West Virginia]

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, headquartered in Salt Lake City, has several congregations throughout the country and worldwide. The Texas case comes as the church faces other allegations of sexual abuse.

In West Virginia, families sued church officials for failing to act while a once-trusted member of a tightknit Mormon community preyed on children. Michael Jensen is serving a prison sentence for sexually abusing two boys while babysitting them. But six families say the much larger Mormon hierarchy in the state should also be held accountable.

The lengthy legal battle that began in 2013 ended last week, after the parties reached a settlement, the details of which were not disclosed.

In Utah, a former Mormon mission leader was accused of trying to rape a young woman more than 30 years ago. Joseph L. Bishop admitted that he took the woman to a small room at the Mormon Church-owned Brigham Young University and asked whether he could see her breasts, the Salt Lake Tribune reported in March. The woman told police that Bishop kissed her and tore her clothes, but she managed to escape.

The allegations resulted in petitions calling for an end to one-on-one interviews between church officials and young Mormons. The Salt Lake Tribune reported that church leaders have since announced new rules allowing a parent or another adult to sit in when church members are interviewing or meeting with women and children.

And lastly this story from the Top Chef host.  And she had to work with some of the many Judges and Contestants who have since found them exposed and not in very good way. 

By Padma Lakshmi

Ms. Lakshmi is an A.C.L.U. ambassador for immigration and women’s rights.
The New York Times
Sept. 25, 2018

When I was 16 years old, I started dating a guy I met at the Puente Hills Mall in a Los Angeles suburb. I worked there after school at the accessories counter at Robinsons-May. He worked at a high-end men’s store. He would come in wearing a gray silk suit and flirt with me. He was in college, and I thought he was charming and handsome. He was 23.

When we went out, he would park the car and come in and sit on our couch and talk to my mother. He never brought me home late on a school night. We were intimate to a point, but he knew that I was a virgin and that I was unsure of when I would be ready to have sex.

On New Year’s Eve, just a few months after we first started dating, he raped me.

I have been turning that incident over in my head throughout the past week, as two women have come forward to detail accusations against the Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. Christine Blasey Ford said he climbed on her and covered her mouth during an attempted rape when they were both in high school, and Deborah Ramirez said he exposed himself to her when they were in college.

On Friday, President Trump tweeted that if what Dr. Blasey said was true, she would have filed a police report years ago. But I understand why both women would keep this information to themselves for so many years, without involving the police. For years, I did the same thing. On Friday, I tweeted about what had happened to me so many years ago.


You may want to know if I had been drinking on the night of my rape. It doesn’t matter, but I was not drunk. Maybe you will want to know what I was wearing or if I had been ambiguous about my desires. It still doesn’t matter, but I was wearing a long-sleeved, black Betsey Johnson maxi dress that revealed only my shoulders.

The two of us had gone to a couple of parties. Afterward, we went to his apartment. While we were talking, I was so tired that I lay on the bed and fell asleep.

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The next thing I remember is waking up to a very sharp stabbing pain like a knife blade between my legs. He was on top of me. I asked, “What are you doing?” He said, “It will only hurt for a while.” “Please don’t do this,” I screamed.

The pain was excruciating, and as he continued, my tears felt like fear.

Afterward, he said, “I thought it would hurt less if you were asleep.” Then he drove me home.

I didn’t report it. Not to my mother, not to my friends and certainly not to the police. At first I was in shock. That evening, I let my mother know when I was home, then went to sleep, hoping to forget that night.

Soon I began to feel that it was my fault. We had no language in the 1980s for date rape. I imagined that adults would say: “What the hell were you doing in his apartment? Why were you dating someone so much older?”

I don’t think I classified it as rape — or even sex — in my head. I’d always thought that when I lost my virginity, it would be a big deal — or at least a conscious decision. The loss of control was disorienting. In my mind, when I one day had intercourse, it would be to express love, to share pleasure or to have a baby. This was clearly none of those things.

Later, when I had other boyfriends my senior year of high school and in my first year of college, I lied to them — I said I was still a virgin. Emotionally, I still was.

When I think about it now, I realize that by the time of this rape, I had already absorbed certain lessons. When I was 7 years old, my stepfather’s relative touched me between my legs and put my hand on his erect penis. Shortly after I told my mother and stepfather, they sent me to India for a year to live with my grandparents. The lesson was: If you speak up, you will be cast out.

These experiences have affected me and my ability to trust. It took me decades to talk about this with intimate partners and a therapist.

Some say a man shouldn’t pay a price for an act he committed as a teenager. But the woman pays the price for the rest of her life, and so do the people who love her.

I think if I had at the time named what happened to me as rape — and told others — I might have suffered less. Looking back, I now think I let my rapist off the hook and I let my 16-year-old self down

I have a daughter now. She’s 8. For years I’ve been telling her the simplest and most obvious words that it took me much of my life to understand: “If anybody touches you in your privates or makes you feel uncomfortable, you yell loud. You get out of there and tell somebody. Nobody is allowed to put their hands on you. Your body is yours.”

Now, 32 years after my rape, I am stating publicly what happened. I have nothing to gain by talking about this. But we all have a lot to lose if we put a time limit on telling the truth about sexual assault and if we hold on to the codes of silence that for generations have allowed men to hurt women with impunity.

One in four girls and one in six boys today will be sexually abused before the age of 18. I am speaking now because I want us all to fight so that our daughters never know this fear and shame and our sons know that girls’ bodies do not exist for their pleasure and that abuse has grave consequences.

Those messages should be very clear as we consider whom we appoint to make decisions on the highest court of our land.

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