I have said repeatedly that men are walking trigger warnings when it comes to sex. They are obsessed with it and the Oedipal complex is alive and well as again Women raise them, they raise them as the men they wish them to be rather that being the children they need to be. I still use my former friend Ethan who in a rage of Christian insanity blasted me away with nasty words and judgments to further push me out of his life. Hey dude I just wanted to admit you were crazy and thanks you did and now that little crazy is out of the closet I am firmly sure that whatever friendship we had is packed in a box in the back to donate to Goodwill when I leave town. The parallels cannot be lost, the obsession with girls, the sexual frustration coupled with religious guilt and the going home to mommy every week to have her do laundry and feed him is pretty much a profile in not courage.
So when I read this article this morning I was of course shaking as it was a little too close for comfort and what was disturbing is I had to actually look up some of them as there have been that many even I can't keep count. I had a long conversation about the Ohio shooter and his band and their music and the collateral damage was not his sister and his friend (who did not die) but those who were in target range as I suspect she was the target all along. The Sandy Hook shooter had killed his Mother first and the Waffle House shooter had stalked and obsessed over Taylor Swift so again what you cannot have you will make sure no one has. Misdirected anger and rage along with guilt over having sexual fantasies and desires makes Johnny a bad and dangerous boy.
Boys are not men they are boys and they need to be raised to be men by learning from women and men how to be just boys who know how to do whatever they need to be independent adults, confident, secure and happy. They can learn to cook and to mend socks and to do laundry and play sports. They need to learn how to make friends and lose them and how to talk to anyone regardless of their gender or age or any other quality or characteristic that makes people different but it teaches one how to get along with with others and find the commonalities versus the differences. As for dating and sex education is essential and the ability to have an open dialogue about those without fear of judgment is also critical. And yes that includes masturbation.
Sitting with Ethan the RK (for religious kook) I listened to varying verbal diatribes then giddily talk about his "liking" his co-worker another in a long line of casualties in this field that eventually one of them will finally stay with him as they are equally nuts. The purity and perfection contract will be violated and if she ever says or does anything that upsets him expect the verbal abuse to begin. I was not fucking the boy and to hear the judgment and abuse was enough for me to think wow just wow when will throw a temper tantrum another one of his expressions after binge drinking.
There needs to be a concept that domestic terrorism includes domestic violence and the flag laws that are being debated need to be done regardless as it is start to gun control. Then we need the reality that our mental health issues in schools is insufficient and the reality is that we are doing little to implement family counseling as a tool to assist in resolving conflict and issues that often occur in families with their own issues. Church is hardly a substitute - case in point - Ethan. He is batshit and the Preachers and biblical scripts he quotes are batfuckingshit crazy. When he demanded the link that showed his beloved crazy fuck Dead Preacher's quote about how slavery kept Black people employed I said I will do it at home. I really wanted to say Google it yourself Bitch. Again the child is so coddled and so fucked up I hope to his beloved Jesus he doesn't have a gun. And I am sure many a friend, family member or authority figure felt the same about those in the story below. And the results were grim.
A Common Trait Among Mass Killers: Hatred Toward Women
By Julie Bosman, Kate Taylor and Tim Arango
The New York Times
Aug. 10, 2019
The man who shot nine people to death last weekend in Dayton, Ohio, seethed at female classmates and threatened them with violence.
The man who massacred 49 people in an Orlando nightclub in 2016 beat his wife while she was pregnant, she told authorities.
The man who killed 26 people in a church in Sutherland Springs, Tex., in 2017 had been convicted of domestic violence. His ex-wife said he once told her that he could bury her body where no one would ever find it.
The motivations of men who commit mass shootings are often muddled, complex or unknown. But one common thread that connects many of them — other than access to powerful firearms — is a history of hating women, assaulting wives, girlfriends and female family members, or sharing misogynistic views online, researchers say.
As the nation grapples with last weekend’s mass shootings and debates new red-flag laws and tighter background checks, some gun control advocates say the role of misogyny in these attacks should be considered in efforts to prevent them.
The fact that mass shootings are almost exclusively perpetrated by men is “missing from the national conversation,” said Gov. Gavin Newsom of California on Monday. “Why does it have to be, why is it men, dominantly, always?”
While a possible motive for the gunman who killed 22 people in El Paso has emerged — he posted a racist manifesto online saying the attack was in response to a “Hispanic invasion of Texas” — the authorities are still trying to determine what drove Connor Betts, 24, to murder nine people in Dayton, including his own sister.
Investigators are looking closely at his history of antagonism and threats toward women, and whether they may have played a role in the attacks.
Since the killings, people who knew Mr. Betts described a man who was offbeat and awkward; others recalled his dark rages and obsession with guns.
Those rages were frequently directed at female acquaintances. In high school, Mr. Betts made a list threatening violence or sexual violence against its targets, most of whom were girls, classmates have said. His threats were frightening enough that some girls altered their behavior: Try not to attract his attention, but don’t antagonize him, either.
“I remember we were all distant, like maybe we should just shy away from him,” said Shelby Emmert, 24, a former classmate. “My mom wanted me to just not associate. She said to stay away from Connor Betts.”
‘An Important Red Flag’
Shannon Watts, the founder of Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America, cited a statistic that belies the sense that mass shootings are usually random: In more than half of all mass shootings in the United States from 2009 to 2017, an intimate partner or family member of the perpetrator was among the victims.
(The study, by the gun control advocacy group Everytown for Gun Safety, defined mass shootings as those in which four or more people died, not including the gunman.)
“Most mass shootings are rooted in domestic violence,” Ms. Watts said. “Most mass shooters have a history of domestic or family violence in their background. It’s an important red flag.”
Federal law prohibits people convicted of certain domestic violence crimes, and some abusers who are subject to protective orders, from buying or owning guns. But there are many loopholes, and women in relationships who are not married to, do not live with, or have children with their abusers receive no protection. Federal law also does not provide a mechanism for actually removing guns from abusers, and only some states have enacted such procedures
Judges can consider an individual’s history of domestic abuse, for example, under red-flag laws adopted in at least 17 states. Such laws allow courts to issue a special type of protective order under which the police can take guns, temporarily, from people deemed dangerous.
The National Rifle Association, the nation’s largest gun lobby, has opposed efforts to expand the situations in which individuals accused of abuse can lose the right to own guns, saying that doing so would deny people due process and punish people for behavior that is not violent.
But Allison Anderman, senior counsel at Giffords Law Center to Prevent Gun Violence, said measures that facilitate the removal of guns from abusers “are a critical step in saving the lives of abuse survivors.” And given the link between domestic abuse and mass shootings, she said, these laws may also help prevent massacres.
The plagues of domestic violence and mass shootings in the United States are closely intertwined. The University of Texas tower massacre in 1966, generally considered to be the beginning of the era of modern mass shootings in America, began with the gunman killing his mother and wife the night before.
Devin P. Kelley, who opened fire on parishioners at a Sunday service in Sutherland Springs, on Nov. 5, 2017, had been convicted of domestic violence by an Air Force general court-martial, for repeatedly beating his first wife and breaking the skull of his infant stepson. That conviction should have kept him from buying or owning guns, but the Air Force failed to enter the court-martial into a federal database.
In attacking the church, Mr. Kelley appeared to be targeting the family of his second wife.
In a case that highlights the so-called boyfriend loophole, in 2016, a man who had been convicted of stalking a girlfriend and had been arrested on a charge of battery against a household member shot Cheryl Mascareñas, whom he had briefly dated, and her three children, killing the children. Because the man had not been married to or had children with the woman he was convicted of stalking, his conviction did not prevent him from having or purchasing guns.
A professed hatred of women is frequent among suspects in the long history of mass shootings in America.
There was the massacre in 1991, when a man walked into Luby’s Cafeteria in Killeen, Tex., and fatally shot 22 people in what at the time was the worst mass shooting in modern United States history. The gunman had recently written a letter to his neighbors calling women in the area “vipers,” and eyewitnesses said he had passed over men in the cafeteria to shoot women at point blank range.
“Even some of the incidents that people don’t know about or aren’t really familiar with now or don’t come to mind, there definitely is a thread of this anger, and misogyny,” said James M. Silver, a professor of criminal justice at Worcester State University who has worked with the F.B.I. to study the motivations of mass gunmen.
In recent years, a number of these men have identified as so-called incels, short for involuntary celibates, an online subculture of men who express rage at women for denying them sex, and who frequently fantasize about violence and celebrate mass shooters in their online discussion groups.
Special reverence is reserved on these websites for Elliot O. Rodger, who killed six people in 2014 in Isla Vista, Calif., a day after posting a video titled “Elliot Rodger’s Retribution.” In it, he describes himself as being tortured by sexual deprivation and promises to punish women for rejecting him. Men on these sites often refer to him by his initials and joke about “going ER” — or a murderous rampage against “normies,” or non-incels.
Several mass killers have cited Mr. Rodger as an inspiration.
Alek Minassian, who drove a van onto a sidewalk in Toronto in 2018, killing 10 people, had posted a message on Facebook minutes before the attack praising Mr. Rodger. “The Incel rebellion has already begun!” he wrote. “All hail Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger!”
And Scott P. Beierle, who last year shot two women to death in a yoga studio in Tallahassee, had also expressed sympathy with Mr. Rodger in online videos in which he railed against women and minorities and told stories of romantic rejection. Mr. Beierle had twice been charged with battery after women accused him of groping them.
Federal law enforcement officials said the F.B.I. was looking at whether the gunman in Dayton had connections with incel groups, and considered incels a threat.
Experts say the same patterns that lead to the radicalization of white supremacists and other terrorists can apply to misogynists who turn to mass violence: a lonely, troubled individual who finds a community of like-minded individuals online, and an outlet for their anger.
“They’re angry and they’re suicidal and they’ve had traumatic childhoods and these hard lives, and they get to a point and they find something or someone to blame,” said Jillian Peterson, a psychologist and a founder of the Violence Project, a research organization that studies mass shootings. “For some people, that is women, and we are seeing that kind of take off.”
David Futrelle, a journalist who for years has tracked incel websites and other misogynistic online subcultures on a blog called “We Hunted the Mammoth,” described incel websites as a kind of echo chamber of despair, where anyone who says anything remotely hopeful quickly gets ostracized.
“You get a bunch of these guys who are just very angry and bitter, and feel helpless and in some cases suicidal, and that’s just absolutely a combination that’s going to produce more shooters in the future,” Mr. Futrelle said.
Psychiatrists, however, say that the attention on mental health generated by mass shootings, and the common argument that mental illness is the explanation for these massacres, cannot explain the link between misogyny and mass shootings. Misogyny — or other types of hatred — is not necessarily a diagnosable mental illness.
Instead, said Amy Barnhorst, the vice chair of community psychiatry at the University of California, Davis, who has studied mass shootings, what ties together many of the perpetrators is “this entitlement, this envy of others, this feeling that they deserve something that the world is not giving them. And they are angry at others that they see are getting it.”