Friday, October 12, 2018

Ce qui sera sera

The time is up.  I have said that MeToo and Times Up will run out of steam and fall into the casual activism that includes the Tea Party, Occupy Wall Street, Women's March, Black Lives Matter, Alt-right among others. In some cases this is not a bad thing in others it shows that momentum is best studied by Physicists and Stephen Hawking is dead and Neil deGrasse Tyson is well busy,  so the reality is that meteors crash and burn but they had a moment.

This lawsuit opens another door that was coming after the whining rants printed by varying accused individuals rallying against the unfairness of it all. Then we have today a charge was dropped in the  Harvey Weinstein case  as a supporting witness has changed their story; This individual is now saying that the accused actually told her that it was not assault it was an exchange for a job which means she consented to give him a blow job. While not a crime it is pretty heinous and truly disgusting but again that is a civil matter, ask Bill Cosby about that one. Oh wait that finally led to criminal charges.  My mother used to say, "You can come in the back door but always leave by the front."  Good plan.

But again I think many, not all, of the men deserve to work and in turn donate money to varying groups and dedicate themselves to years of therapy and a short leash in which to move as a way of changing the message, proving that you can be healed/cured/be a better person and apologize and move forward to model that change is possible.  Isn't that a critical part of redemption?  Us the big on christian nation and the whole forgiveness model?  We have a lot of exceptions to that rule. 

Again we work on the presumption of innocent until proven guilty (unless black and/or poor then game on).  And in turn what is one woman's blow job for a job is another woman's sexual assault.     It is complicated the nature of male/female relationships but the lines blur when alcohol or other drugs are involved, then you have fame and the way the casting couch has a long history, the confusion about "signals" and of course positions of power that enable one to take advantage of a situation and in some cases it ends up working out fine.  I suspect Julia Chen might elaborate on her relationship with Les Moonves one day or not.  But there are many women who began relationships with their prestigious married boss, Ben Bradlee of the Washington Post is another and in turn what could be considered inappropriate led to long term relationships that both partners went into willingly and consensual.  How their Spouses and Co-workers viewed them at the time may be less than gracious but again this is where it does become confusing if not frustrating for all involved?    Maybe we can blame those Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn movies as she was a Lesbian and he was married during their "affair."  Ce qui sera sera



Creator of notorious ‘Media Men’ list of anonymous sexual accusations is sued by writer who says it nearly ruined him


By Isaac Stanley-Becker
October 12 at 5:40 AM

Stephen Elliott, a writer based in New Orleans alleged to have committed various sexual misdeeds on a crowdsourced list of bad “Media Men” circulated a year ago, is suing the Google spreadsheet’s creator, Moira Donegan.

The defamation lawsuit, filed Wednesday in the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of New York, marks a new chapter in the conflict over the #MeToo movement. The suit appears to be the first legal action pursued by a man named in the document, which opened a debate about anonymity, self-protection and the Web, as the prevalence of sexual misconduct became a focus of national attention.

As the spreadsheet tore through the Internet on Oct. 11, 2017, a flash point of the incipient #MeToo movement, its cells bulged to fit anonymous accounts of misbehavior by men working in journalism and publishing. Within 12 hours, Donegan, a former editor for the New Republic, took the document offline as BuzzFeed prepared to publish an article on its contents.

But the list had already been populated with the names of more than 70 men. They ranged in age from their 20s to their 60s. More than a dozen had been marked with red highlighting, denoting accusations of “physical sexual violence by multiple women.” One of them was Elliott, whose alleged wrongdoings included rape, sexual harassment, coercion and unsolicited invitations to his apartment.

He is now seeking at least $1.5 million in damages from Donegan and threatening through his lawsuit to expose up to 30 yet-unknown “Jane Does” who edited or publicized the spreadsheet.

“Defendants knew the List contained false defamatory statements, including the entirety of Plaintiff’s entry, but published the List to numerous women to intentionally injure, harass, defame, endanger, aggrieve and embarrass Plaintiff,” attorneys with Nesenoff & Miltenberg, a New York-based law firm, wrote in the complaint filed in federal court.

One of Elliott’s attorneys, Andrew Miltenberg, has become a prominent attorney for men seeking to fend off allegations of sexual assault, particularly on college campuses. His clients have included Paul Nungesser, the Columbia University student accused by his classmate, Emma Sulkowicz, of rape, and Alec Klein, the former Northwestern journalism professor — also formerly of The Washington Post — accused of misconduct by students and staff on the Evanston, Ill., campus.

A defamation claim is difficult to prove. Courts require that what was said or written be proved false and that the false statement caused actual harm. It’s even more challenging if the plaintiff is a public figure, in which case the plaintiff would have to show that the defendant acted knowing the charge to be false or in “reckless disregard” of the truth. While Elliott contends that he is not a public figure, the lawsuit claims that the defendants knew the allegations against him were false because of his well-documented sexual preferences, including in his 2006 book, “My Girlfriend Comes to the City and Beats Me Up.”

His lawsuit details the personal and professional difficulties he encountered because of the list. It recounts how he contemplated suicide and enrolled in therapy as friends and family members shunned him. The filing says professional opportunities dried up.

“He attributed this to the false allegations recently published in the List in which he was falsely accused of being a rapist,” the suit maintains.

Donegan, a writer based in New York, reposted an essay on Twitter on Thursday that she had written for New York Magazine’s the Cut about the list and its reception.

“I Started the Media Men List,” divulged the headline on the January 2018 essay. “My name is Moira Donegan.”

The piece responded to growing speculation about the origins of the list, which became a cause celebre in media circles, as rumors circulated that Harper’s Magazine was planning to name Donegan as the effort’s initiator. The article in the March 2018 issue, written by Katie Roiphe, lamented “Twitter feminism” and likened the list of media figures said to have misbehaved to an “anonymously crowdsourced list of Muslims.” Several prominent men on the list, including Ryan Lizza of the New Yorker and Leon Wieseltier of the New Republic and then the Atlantic, eventually lost their jobs.

Donegan said there were also repercussions for her. She lost friends, as well as an unspecified job, in the weeks after the spreadsheet was exposed, she wrote in the Cut. She acknowledged “pitfalls,” saying the list was “indeed vulnerable to false accusations” — a concern that led her to add a disclaimer at the top advising: “This document is only a collection of misconduct allegations and rumors. Take everything with a grain of salt.” The document was labeled “a collection of misconduct allegations and rumors.”

But she defended her decision to create the spreadsheet, saying it wasn’t intended for mass consumption but rather as “a place for women to share their stories of harassment and assault without being needlessly discredited or judged.”

“The hope was to create an alternate avenue to report this kind of behavior and warn others without fear of retaliation,” she wrote. “Too often, for someone looking to report an incident or to make habitual behavior stop, all the available options are bad ones.”

While critics warned that whisper networks denied the accused due process, others raised different concerns. Sarah Jeong, the tech writer whose own online behavior has been a source of controversy, noted in the Verge that these networks could also injure victims. She described a “double-edged sword: the same secrecy that protects victims and whistleblowers can shield perpetrators as well.” She also observed that the list was overbroad, “collecting stories that ranged from incredibly violent sexual assaults to unwanted workplace overtures, a mixture of allegations that . . . felt, to some, a little odd to be mixed together.”

Some prominent voices came to Donegan’s defense. Samantha Bee, the host of “Full Frontal With Samantha Bee,” said the spreadsheet fulfilled the central purpose of the social movement against sexual violence. “The list also let women know that they weren’t alone, you know, the whole ‘Me Too’ component.”

“If we go public with a story, we’re petty crybabies hellbent on destroying men’s careers. If we write a secret list to protect each other, we’re gossipy shrews telling lies in the shadows,” Bee said, suggesting a Catch-22.

The suit takes aim at additional contributors to the list, whose identities Elliott intends to expose using IP addresses and email accounts that could reveal their true names and addresses, the filing asserts. He is pledging to subpoena “shared Google spreadsheet metadata” to obtain this information, according to the suit.

In addition to monetary damages, Elliott is asking the court to compel a written retraction of all “false and defamatory statements.”

The suit follows closely on the publication of a personal essay by Elliott in Quillette, an online magazine based in Sydney. In the September piece, titled “How an Anonymous Accusation Derailed My Life,” he argued that anonymity undermined the aims of the #MeToo movement.

“#MeToo was an expression of solidarity but there is no solidarity for the accused,” he wrote. “We don’t talk to one another. We assume that if someone else has been accused, there must be a good reason. We’re afraid of guilt by association. We don’t want to be noticed so we lower our voices. Most of us stop posting on social media and stick to ever-dwindling circles of friends.”

He contended that people who enjoy only precarious employment, such as freelancers, are particularly vulnerable, as they have no access to a workplace investigation that might clear their name.

“Over the course of this year, I’ve come to believe that if a movement embraces anonymous lists and a presumption of guilt, it is already poisoned and not worth supporting,” he noted.

The issue isn’t disappearing. Last month, a collection of anonymous students at the University of Washington launched a website called “Make Them Scared,” soliciting the names of men, within the school and beyond, who stood accused of sexual misconduct.

“It’s the [S—ty] Media Men list, UW edition,” observed an article in the Stranger, a biweekly alternative newspaper in Seattle.

On the site, a set of questions are posed: “But what about innocent until proven guilty? What about false accusations? What about innocent people’s lives being ruined?”

The author of the site answered that it would be better to believe someone who had made a false accusation than to defend someone who had committed assault, suggesting, with little explanation, that these were the only two options.

“I made this site for one reason: to give survivors a voice, and to make it known to attackers that they can’t keep getting away with this, that there is some entity out there, if not our legal system, if not our universities’ administrations, that will hold them accountable for their actions,” the person states.

In an editorial, the campus newspaper called the site a “symptom, not a solution.”

Reflecting on the fracas over the spreadsheet, Donegan wrote in her January essay that what shocked her above all was not the blowback but “the realization of how badly it was needed, how much more common the experience of sexual harassment or assault is than the opportunity to speak about it.”

“I am still trying to grapple with this realization,” she wrote.

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