Friday, March 30, 2018

F*&K me

Craigslist has shut down their "personal" section due to the new Congressional law regarding sex trafficking.

What has everyone in arms seems to be  largely Gay men, Sex Workers and sad lonely men who are now heading back to Ashley Madison after their hacking scandal a few years ago.  Men need their cocks sucked people and they need it bad! I have not heard one single woman or married woman complain that they cannot find a way to get laid.  Just go to work.. oh wait guess not.

Well I for one think the bullshit surrounding sex trafficking is utter bullshit. Right now we have here in Tennessee the idiot, Trump lover (but not in a payoff way) Diane Black running for Governor driving down down the highway in search of sex traffickers. Really? Are they in some gigantic truck or bus that makes it easy to spot?   When I think of human trafficking I think of the semi that left dozens of Immigrants roasting to death from lack of air and water,  or running for their lives on boats that sink due to overcrowding or weather.  And yes many are forced into sex servitude in exchange for "freedom" but the reality is that this like many other bullshit crime targets is exaggerated.

Recently in Seattle the King County Police decided to create as Prostitution roundup entirely funded by an anti-sex work group and of course it was bullshit and led to nothing.  Yes free or at least affordable  sex and speech please!

I used the Craigslist personals when I was first divorced a decade ago, I met a great lover and a few nice folks but mostly it was sad fucked up men, many married and utterly in it for fucking.  After a while the trash stinks and you need to take it out.   I have read not one but two articles about how predatory men troll online dating sites for women in my age group to exploit and rob. The Atlantic has an excellent story about such a man, The Perfect Man Who Wasn't, who preyed on lonely hearts a story that is not new in the least.   And yes men have been harmed too.

Our country is obsessed with sex, with drugs, with booze and the rest of it notsomuch.  I am pro legal prostitution, I am pro legalizing marijuana and decriminalizing many others and I don't have a problem with booze.  Here in Tennessee the irony is that as they debate legalizing medical marijuana they are seriously considering restricting the ability for someone to buy booze if they get a DUI and this is from a city that makes it living off booze. Good.luck.with.that.  I imagine 40 year old men standing outside liquor stores like teenagers and saying, "Hey lady can you get me a fifth of Scotch?" There is a new way to find a date!  See it works out.

But Craigslist is a sewer.  It is not just the personal sites it is the for sale sites, for rent and even services where many users have found themselves victims of crimes that are not related to fucking in the least.  Remember the Craigslist Killer?  Irony that was a fitting death.  Good times.

Why I respect the idea that online dating should be permitted but in reality you need full ID's, photos and vetting.   Not.going.to.happen.  Well you are going to have to find your one night stands the old-fashioned way - at bars or at golf courses where porn stars are.




Sexual freedom is at risk from these damning new bills passed by Congress

Craigslist closed its personal ads due to Congress’s patriarchal, homophobic bid to control sex workers. It won’t stop there

Steven W Thrasher
Guardian UK
Thu 29 Mar 2018

Craigslist shut down its personals section entirely last week. This left me shaken – for what it portends about my own sexual history with Craiglist’s “M4M” personals, about the safety of sex workers, and about the growing surveillance of sexual freedoms in the US.

The reason for the shutdown? The US Congress had just passed the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (Fosta) and Stop Enabling Sex Trafficking Act (Sesta) bills. Donald Trump seems likely to sign these anti-sex bills into law, even as the nation hears all about him allegedly getting spanked by adult film star Stormy Daniels.

As Craigslist explained on its site, Fosta seeks “to subject websites to criminal and civil liability when third parties (users) misuse online personals unlawfully”. If any sex work happens on their site, Craigslist itself could be sued.

“We can’t take such risk without jeopardizing all our other services, so we are regretfully taking Craigslist personals offline,” the ever simple internet billboard wrote. “Hopefully we can bring them back some day. To the millions of spouses, partners, and couples who met through Craigslist, we wish you every happiness!”

If you think none of this applies to you because you’re not queer or into kink or sex work, think again

That kind sentiment hit me hard. One frigid February night in 2007 – a few weeks after my mother had died, deep in the darkest winter of my life – I responded to a Craigslist ad in the “men seeking men” category. We met that night and had sex.

Afterwards, we talked a bit in that lovely post-orgasmic way gay men sometimes do, in that space of connection that Craigslist M4M has made possible for me to meet other gay men in the far reaches of the globe. He was a smart and delightful man. We didn’t live in the same city, but later when we did, we dated for several years. Except in very rare instances, shame and embarrassment kept me from ever telling anyone that I’d met this boyfriend in this way. But he became one of the great loves of my life and is still a dear friend.

It’s sad that no one else will get to meet their boyfriends or missed connections on Craigslist any more, but my sadness isn’t only about the loss of “respectable” connections. I mourn all the connections people had through Craigslist that were meaningful for them, including sex work.

Craiglist M4M was fundamental to exploring my budding sexuality, and I hooked up with guys through it in my 20s. I don’t have the kind of face or body that generated much interest on Match.com when I was in my 20s, and I still don’t have the right looks to generate any interest on Grindr or Tindr.

But sometimes, in the flirting exchange of emails generated by Craiglist ads, I found men to explore with – sometimes sexually, sometimes not. It’s a tragedy other people won’t have the freedom to explore as I did in this way.

But stymying sexual acts like mine wasn’t even the primary intent of Sesta or Fosta. The major purpose of these bills is to conflate coerced sex tracking with willing sex work, as well as to better punish anyone who willingly engages in sex work (and any website that facilitates it). This is a particular economic assault on people who are queer, trans and/or formerly incarcerated who have been locked out of other forms of earning income.

As senior reporter at In Justice Today, Melissa Gira Grant has been writing for some time, these bills are opposed by survivors of sex trafficking and will put the lives of sex workers ever more at risk. The answer now is to make sex work legal and to facilitate ways it can be done more safely, not to drive it more underground.

More people should care about sex workers’ rights. But if you think none of this applies to you because you’re not queer or into kink or sex work, think again: the US Congress wants to further regulate sex by way of the internet, and most people’s modern sex lives interact with the internet.

Craigslist shut down its entire personal section because of the overreaching congressional desire to control sex work. And there’s no reason Congress couldn’t similarly intimidate Tindr or Grindr to remove you or shut down entirely as it has Craigslist – and then where would you be?

There has been worry that the #MeToo movement could lead to a sex panic. But the real sex panic is not due to feminism run amok, but due to the patriarchal, homophobic, transantagonistic, theocratic desire of the US Congress to control sex workers – and, by extension, to smother the sexual desires of any of us who don’t want to conform to their puritanical ways.

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