So this morning when I read the below article it confirmed what I have believed and in turn asks the question what will happen when the pussy hats are put back in the drawer?
This week I read articles in The Guardian about the cost of motherhood in this country from medical expenses to costs and/or availability of child care. The irony is that when a Mother elects or needs to work the wages of those whom care for their children in the most essential phases of a child's life have wages thare are so substandard with little health and maternity leave so they too neglect their own children. In addition many pre-K workers are so poorly trained it only further proves my reality that when children arrive into schools at age 5 their course with regards to education is well established and it is not a good one. And we march. Do we have an agenda in place and priorities in order? Nope.
Funny that it is the UK Guardian dedicating resources to the subject of Motherhood and raising funds to assist in this issue. But in America the media is dedicated to all things Trump. At some point we need to focus on other issues.
Then this week marked the sentencing hearing of Dr. Nassar the Physician in charge of U.S. Gymnastics, which refuses to admit to their role in this complicity, the litany of women who testified about their abuse at the hands of man in charge of their well being was a testimony of their own strength that went beyond their physical agility. It was repulsive to listen to but their voices rang loud and clear as the man sat in the witness box weeping and begging the Judge to stop, a woman, who wisely refused his request.
I sit here now with the SAG Awards on and frankly am bored but this is award season and we are supposed to care as they have taken on a serious tone with MeToo and TimesUp. But the missing nominees are the telling ones, with Aziz Ansari and James Franco clearly taking a time out.
I am aware that I sound hard on Nashville but I tried very hard to jump into this red sea with both feet and was open to whatever presented itself to me as I desperately needed to find a new voice and place in which to let go of the anger that had ruled me for the four years prior. Then I realized that I landed in an angry place for reasons that I now see and in turn realize that I cannot expect others to heal me when I could not heal myself. Anger is the balm and in turn the fuel that fires me alive. But anger is a dish not served by women here it is masked in passive aggressiveness and prayer. The two most significant markers of ignorance and arrogance that accompany "religiousity"
Today the New York Times Magazine had an excellent article about Anger and particularly the issue about anger when it comes to women and how it is perceived. I used to believe that crying was not a way to garner support so I portrayed weakness and in turn manipulated others through guilt and shame. Then I came here where that is the foundation of religion and Christianity and I now feel shame and guilt that I ever tried to pull that shit here. The children that I used to find a place of security I find nothing but loathing and in turn fear as they strike me as so dangerous and volatile I want nothing to do with them. I know from them the Adults they will become and I pray I will leave before that happens. I never thought in my day I would ever both loathe and fear children in such a way but here in Nashville it has become impossible for me to see the trees for the forest. From them I see what religion is capable of and in turn I have found myself questioning that among many other beliefs that I held so dear to my soul in my 58 years of living since moving here.
I spend my time thinking of ways of moving on and forward for if I stop moving forward I am not living I am stagnant and when stagnant you die. As a native Northwestern woman I look to the Evergreen tree as a symbol of self, strong, resilient and ageless. You never know how old they are until you open them to count the rings and they have a long history and usefulness that I embrace. I hope to find that when I leave here and thankfully I am in a planter that I can take anywhere so I don't need to dig deep to pack and go. I will leave no roots here but I will look back on this as a garden that did not suit this tree, the climate, the soil and the water is not conducive to maintain growth and longevity. But for the time I am here I will remember this as a place that I realized that and sometimes you need to uproot yourself to find yourself. But I cannot wait to move on and find a place to plant some roots.
The Women’s March Became a Movement. What’s Next?
By SUSAN CHIRA
THE NEW YORK TIMES
JAN. 20, 2018
A year ago, when millions of people stormed the streets in women’s marches to proclaim their outrage and despair at the inauguration of Donald J. Trump, no one knew whether it was a moment or a movement.
Now the answer is coming into focus. Women have become the foot soldiers and emerging leaders of a two-pronged effort: sustained political resistance to the Trump presidency, as they run for office in unheard-of numbers; and a broader cultural challenge to men’s power and privilege, embodied by the #MeToo uprising.
“Everyone kept saying people are going to burn out; don’t highlight all the terrible things that are happening,” said Fatima Goss Graves, chief executive of the National Women’s Law Center. “But I haven’t seen a weakening.”
Marchers once more took to the streets this weekend, gathering in hundreds of cities across the country and around the world, from Osaka and Rome to New York and Chicago. But even with the show of strength, the movement faces several hurdles.
Leaders in the United States say it is no small task to sustain enthusiasm and plot strategy in the face of policy defeats on a range of issues. President Trump has appointed conservative judges and empowered federal agency leaders who have approved work requirements for Medicaid, religious exemptions for providers who oppose abortion, and changes to campus guidelines for sexual assault. Gender — and the charged issue of sexual harassment — has proved a resonant rallying cry, but it has also stoked a backlash. The movement has largely become synonymous with progressive causes, alienating some who may dislike Mr. Trump but part ways on abortion, economic policy or other issues.
The #MeToo moment and allegations of men sexually harassing women, in particular, has resonated more with some women than with others. Nancy Isenberg, the author of “White Trash,” an expansive look at class in America, said the working-class women she has studied are far more skeptical of claims of sexual harassment that do not involve violence.
“Unlike the MeToo crowd, they do not see all women as facing the same kind of abuse, and reject the idea that all women suffer from sexism in the same way,” she wrote in an email. “Conservative women often want to protect the privileges they have (which often means enforcing traditional gender roles, not eliminating them).”
Yet organizers said they were putting aside their divisions, even as some groups disagree over who can claim the mantle of the Women’s March. “What we saw in 2017 was that women are prepared to carry more than their share of weight for defending our democracy,” said Ai-jen Poo, the director of the National Domestic Workers Alliance, one of the many advocacy groups that were partners in the original march and provided resources and training to women throughout the year. “I think that women are driving and leading a transformation in American and civic life and culture that is unendingly hopeful.”
Ms. Poo herself embodies the merging of these strands of the movement. For years she worked in relative anonymity championing domestic workers, but walked the red carpet as Meryl Streep’s guest during the Golden Globes as celebrities sought to make common cause with less privileged women in the wake of the uproar over sexual abuse.
While the marches were the first tangible demonstration of women’s anger and resolve, the health care fight proved the first test of how to channel that energy. Women took the lead, spurred by advocacy groups that married traditional community organizing tools with online templates.
With Congress poised to end Obamacare, women deluged their representatives with calls and letters, and confronted them at town halls. In one survey conduced by Celinda Lake, the veteran Democratic pollster, women placed 86 percent of 28,000 calls and texts to Congress on health care through Daily Action, another postelection resistance group. Planned Parenthood funneled more than 350,000 such calls, according to Kelley Robinson, its national organizing director. T he Women’s March estimates that its participants sent 250,000 postcards to senators. And at town halls during congressional recesses, women offered vivid accounts of what would happen to them or their families without affordable health care.
The furor about health care crossed usual partisan lines, and along with internal fractures within the Republican Party, prompted enough Republican defections to thwart repeated attempts to end Obamacare through legislation.
As for #MeToo, the pink hats that became the emblem of the marches offered an early clue to the persistence of an issue many women believed was buried by Mr. Trump’s election. The hats were a reference to Mr. Trump’s comments, caught on an Access Hollywood tape, bragging about kissing women and grabbing their genitals without their consent. The emergence of the tape just before the election provoked an outpouring of women testifying about sexual harassment. It was not until this most recent wave, though, that men lost jobs — and in some cases, women are taking their places.
The broader cultural conversation that #MeToo is generating will lend the movement additional momentum, its organizers contend. “The words ‘patriarchy’ and ‘misogyny’ have probably been used more in the past two months than over the past two decades,” said Kathy Bonk, long active in the women’s movement.
Ms. Lake said an overview of current polling, as well as focus groups and polls her own firm has conducted, suggest that health care and sexual harassment are the issues that matter most to women, and give female candidates the most traction.
Galvanized by the election, women are proclaiming their intent to run for office at record levels — a trend that began right after the election and has only intensified since.
Debbie Walsh, director of the Center for American Women and Politics at Rutgers, has tallied 390 women who say they will run for seats in the House of Representatives — 314 are Democrats and 184 of them are running for seats held by Republicans. Nineteen Democratic women are challenging incumbents in their own party in primaries. That fervor extends beyond the federal level: 79 women say they are running for governor. Ms. Walsh thinks it’s possible that 15 women, a record, could withstand primaries and run for governor in general elections.
Mustering money and support for women who run, as well as concerted efforts to increase voter registration and turnout, are explicit aims not only of the Women’s March organizers but virtually every group mobilizing for elections at all levels of government. On Sunday in Las Vegas, a march will culminate in a voter-registration drive called Power to the Polls; parallel efforts abound.
Inspired by the women’s march last year, Megan McCarthy, who lives in a solidly Republican suburb of St. Louis, organized a “huddle” — mostly women and some men devoted to sustaining political involvement. One member of the group is running for state office for the first time — and the group is also rallying behind efforts to flip the district’s longstanding Republican House seat.
Ellen Bravo, a director of Family Values at Work, said she was recently in a small general store in Spring Green, Wis., and learned that the store clerk was going to make her first run for local office.
Money is flowing to Democratic women who are running, said Sarah Bryner, the research director of the Center for Responsive Politics. They are raising as much as their male counterparts, and even in the first nine months of 2017, the center saw double the number of Democratic women who donated money compared with 2016.
Democrats are particularly emboldened because of the role women have played, as voters and organizers, in recent victories over Republican candidates in Wisconsin, Virginia and particularly in the defeat of Roy Moore in Alabama.
The Alabama contest showcased another demographic for the movement: Black women, so outraged by exit polls suggesting that the majority of white women voted for Mr. Trump, are playing leading roles. Racial tensions that flared among some organizers before the first women’s march appear to have ebbed.
A strong gender gap continues to play out in approval ratings for Mr. Trump. While trends fluctuate, Ms. Lake said recent polls show that independent women, who broke for Mr. Trump at the last minute in the election, now largely oppose him, while independent men still approve of him. Majorities of rural women and women without college educations still support him, but Ms. Lake said she had seen some softening in those groups.
Gender can alienate as well as energize. Emily Ekins, director of polling for the libertarian Cato Institute, said that in general, gender issues do not seem to galvanize Republican women to the degree they do Democratic ones. And her polling found many conservatives and even some liberals still feel inhibited and resentful discussing issues like gender and race, which can lead to election surprises.
As the marchers rally this weekend, they are girding for battles — and an increasing number of legal challenges — on a vast range of fronts: abortion rights, changes to Medicaid and Medicare, and environmental regulations. Many expect setbacks at the federal level, so they will turn to states and localities.
“Last year, I just felt kind of angry and impassioned,” Ann Dee Allen of Wauwatosa, Wis., said at the march in New York on Saturday. “This year, I just feel like I’m in it for the long haul.”