Tuesday, December 22, 2015

It's Complicated

When I read the below story, I thought that if this was a man he would have picked up a gun, walked into a casino and opened fire. That is the difference between the sexes. The expression of anger and rage has become now an need for public display and of late we have more bullets firing than fireworks.

My belief that San Bernandino was not a "terrorist" attack as those in Paris where ideologues use religion to express anger and pick random targets in large cities to make a statement, this was personal. I suspect given the history of the male attacker and his friendship with the simpleton who provided guns was a stooge used by the family to marry someone's Russian sister for immigration purpose and provide weaponry and fuel the bullshit that generated nonsense talking about going on a rampage, in the same manner akin to talking about fantasy football.   As when it really happened it was the young man and his imported bride, instead of his being from Russia, his from Pakistan, a country where we have a complex relationship.  We cannot ignore Pakistan and their role in terrorism as it is one we often neglect to mention. But ask India about their relationship and history with that country.

That said, I have always thought that in the case of most mass shootings this too was sexually charged, inflamed by his wife who I doubt had any friends or relationships with anyone in this country, a new mother, in isolation whose only hobby appears to be spending hours building pipe bombs and planning some attack with her husband. The role of women either in the sexual frustration or instigation cannot be overlooked.

So that attack while on the surface seemed to be some type of Paris scene, it was about work, fitting in and anger that he clearly only expressed to the one person willing to go the distance with him to express that rage, one with equal rage and anger. And that is what depression is. Surprise we are back to the mental health thing again!

Sorry but I see how women rile and anger men in schools with kids and men's equal frustration and confusion and simple inability to communicate with women that often end up in violence. If you are wondering how and why domestic violence occurs ask yourself if you understand couple dynamics and if you shrug that is your answer. As they say "it's complicated."

When you read the story below the light bulb about depression, rage and anger should be clear. Simply connect the dots and realize that when you are marginalized in society and that can be for many reasons, you become frustrated, angry, and in turn depressed. So you act on that either suicidal or homicidal or both.


How Lakeisha Holloway’s striving life veered into deadly chaos on the Las Vegas Strip


By Sarah Kaplan
The Washington Post
December 22 at 6:14 AM


It was 6:35 on the Las Vegas strip: bustling and bright and ostentatiously overstimulating in that classically Las Vegas way. Inside the Planet Hollywood Resort, a bewildered audience watched a wealthy TV personality accidentally give a crown to the wrong beautiful woman. Outside, tourists milled on a crowded sidewalk: a wrestling team from Oregon, a couple from Arizona, a newly-minted 21-year-old from Montreal. They snapped photos of the fake Eiffel Tower, consulted on their evening plans.

Lakeisha Holloway, 24, sat at the wheel of her ’96 Oldsmobile, her 3-year-old old daughter in the backseat. Holloway didn’t want to be among all that gaudy glitter. But she’d been turned away from everywhere else.

It was 6:36 on the Las Vegas strip. Holloway spun the wheel.

In that moment, the car became a deadly weapon, and Holloway an accused murderer. On Monday she was charged with killing a pedestrian when she drove her car onto a sidewalk, over a walkway and then onto another sidewalk, hitting more than three dozen people in the process. A few people raced after her, pounding on the drivers window and yelling for her to stop. At one point, she later told investigators, she recalled a body bouncing off the windshield of her car, shattering the glass. She drove on.

A mile later, Holloway pulled up at another hotel, got out of her car, and walked up to a parking attendant.

Call the police, she told them. She’d just run over several people.

Three years ago, Holloway had defied the odds to become a decorated high school graduate. The daughter of a single parent who had grown up homeless, Holloway swore that her life would be different from those of the people around her. She took college classes, got a job with the Forest Service, had a daughter. She dreamed of opening her own women’s clothing company. As recently as October, she got a judge’s approval to change her name.

Paris Paradise Morton, she was going to be called. A signature that signaled aspiration.

But there she was in the casino parking lot Sunday night, her daughter in the back seat, a bloody crime scene behind her.

What no one can quite figure out is why.

Investigators believe that Holloway may have been en-route to Dallas to find her daughter’s estranged father when she ran out of money in Vegas, according to the Associated Press. For a week, she’d been sleeping in her car in the parking lots of casinos.

According to an arrest report released Monday, Holloway said that she’d been through a stressful period earlier that day. She was trying to sleep inside her car with her daughter, but security officers kept running her out of every parking lot they stopped in. That’s how she ended up on the strip, “a place she did not want to be.”

Holloway was not under the influence of any alcohol or drugs, she told the police — officials have not yet released the results of their own blood tests. But she would not explain what would have compelled her to plow her car into so many people.

It’s not even clear what brought her to Las Vegas from Portland, Oregon, where she lived until last week.

Holloway had a troubled upbringing there, one that she was determined to overcome.

“I was a scared little girl who knew that there was more to life outside of crime, drug addiction, lower income, alcoholism, being under-educated, all of which were things I grew up being familiar with,” Holloway said in a video interview about her high school three years ago.

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Holloway didn’t know anyone who had graduated from high school; her mother had only an eighth grade education, and she struggled with alcoholism.

“She drank more, and cared less,” Holloway said in the video. “I was scared out of my mind.”

During Holloway’s freshman year, her mother kicked her out of the house. Holloway spent much of high school homeless.

But in 2012, Holloway graduated from the Portland Opportunities Industrial Center, an alternative high school, with a “role model award” for overcoming adversity, according to the Portland weekly the Skanner. She began taking classes at Portland State University while working for the Forest Service.

In the video interview after graduation, the 21-year-old Holloway is smoothly self-assured.

“Today, I am not the same scared girl I used to be,” she says, not once breaking her gaze from the camera. “I am a mature young women who has broken many generational cycles that those before me hadn’t. Being homeless and on my own taught me to stand on my own two feet.”

But public records show that even then she was struggling. In 2011, according to the Oregonian, she was convicted for driving without a license or insurance.

A year later, her license was suspended for failing to meet insurance requirements, Oregon Department of Transportation spokeswoman Sally Ridenour told the Los Angeles Times. She has been cited for driving without a license or insurance since.

“It’s a pattern,” Ridenour said.

Holloway was driving with a suspended license when she veered into the crowd on Sunday.

To LaShay Hardaway, Holloway’s cousin, almost nothing about the woman portrayed in police accounts or in media reports is familiar to her.

“It sounds like we’re not even talking about her,” she told the LA Times.

To Hardaway, Holloway is a “beautiful person,” she told the Oregonian, someone who is “always thinking about her daughter or the next thing she needs to take care of.” She said that Holloway had a job and was enrolled at Portland Community College, but was looking for other options. That search is what brought her to Las Vegas.

Hardaway also disputed police reports that her cousin had been homeless and sleeping in her car; Holloway had rented a room, she told the Los Angeles Times.

“She’s never been homeless,” she said.

Holloway’s family prayed for the victims after they heard about the deadly crash Sunday, which killed Jessica Valenzuela, 32, of Buckeye, Arizona. And they’re struggling to make sense of what happened to the bright young woman they knew.

Holloway is probably struggling with that herself, Hardaway said.

“I’m sure it’s unbelievable to her right now,” she told the Oregonian

Holloway is being held in a Clark County jail under suicide watch, Public Defender Scott Coffee told the Associated Press; child protective services is taking care of her daughter.

The woman faces charges of murder with a deadly weapon, child abuse or neglect, and failing to stop at an accident involving death or injury; officials plan to file additional charges, including possibly multiple counts of attempted murder, as they gather more information about the incident.

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