Monday, June 2, 2014

Knees Meet Jerk

The tragic events of Santa Barbara last week continue with of course the requesite knee jerk lawmaker devising another set of unenforceable and expensive if not of course privacy violating laws to somehow circumvent the events that took place.

Hey ladeee, here is the plan. Get the Police to do their job. These same upholders of Justice would no knock warrant a house of the blacks, spics and kills a puppy, put a grenade like instrument in a baby's bed and stop random people on the highways following an anonymous 911 "the driver is drunk" call, arrest women and transgender individuals for possession of condoms, force body cavity searches on some person who seems to be either brown and/or a drug smuggler than actually do this thing called investigating. Well why start now?

My god the hubris of the American people to expect these bastions or batons depending on which end you are on, to uphold the law and do actually police work to ensure said obligations of protecting and serving the general public. Notice I said general as in the great unwashed as they pretty much see all of us as suspects, generally. Like they did in this town.

To again, add another variable into the equation, means more violations of privacy, additional costs to the already overwhelmed and burdened system, placing responsibility of an indvidual's mental health and overall risk to society into the hands of god knows who and their qualifications and experience into a 20 minute assessment period, most likely from a checklist akin to the already questionable DSM criteria. I see this working out well.

The mental health system already has problems with nowhere near sufficient individuals with appropriate experience so I presume this assessment will fall to the lowest common denominator of mental health practioners - Social Workers. Again look to the history of their overwhelming failures and impressions from those who work with them.

Again if misogyny is the problem in America and that is why men are going on killing rampages and raping women on college campuses, then why is surprising that a young man who indirectly contributes to further exploitation of women is now being outed as the misogynist he is. Well outing those for some type of "ism" being racism or sexism is the rage. Just ask Donald Sterling, Paula Deen, Alec Baldwin, etc, etc, etc.

So when I read in the Washington Post this morning a link to Valleywag, a salacious gossip site dedicated to the Silicon Valley privleged set, you know there is a real issue there. Perhaps we need to ## that one too.

But when you are rich, a Stanford Grad, well connected, invented an absurdly stupid app which white males invested millions for basically porn, this kind of misogyny is for back slapping versus a restraining order. Maybe they can go to that private club I wrote about in the last post, as this way they aren't actually shooting, killing women. Raping.. to some degree I guess legally notsomuch.

I could happily knee that jerk as there is no way at the prime age of 23 he is any more sophisticated or enlightened about his views toward women.

Want more misogyny? Watch the Esquire channel's show Lucky Bastards. I consider myself lucky for not living in New York and running into these bastards.

Snapchat CEO’s e-mails show need to confront misogyny

Amanda Bennett
Published: June 1

All human beings have a right to be idiots. Young people in particular have a right to be idiots. All people have the right to put the past behind them. People have a right to think, and in fact to say, whatever they want.

People should be judged on their actions and not be penalized for what they say in their private conversations. I’ve read too much about China’s thought police not to be aware of the perils. Nor am I very fond of condemning people solely on the basis of what I learn from private e-mail-forwarding and iPhone uploading.

.So let us draw a merciful curtain before this child Evan Spiegel (and make no mistake about it — all his potential zillions from Snapchat don’t obscure the fact that even at 23, he’s not very far removed from the child he was then). Let us leave the chief executive of this disappearing-photo startup alone with his growing up, self-reflection and self-abnegation, be it sincere or not, for the cache of e-mails that someone — presumably a frat pal on the receiving end — made available for all to read last week.

Instead, let us, all the rest of us, thank both him and the anonymous leaker for the x-ray vision they have given us into a world that many suspected existed but had no real way to know for sure. Then, after giving thanks, I would like to exhort all mothers, fathers, college administrators, young men, young women and, above all, employers to take a deep breath and read the e-mails in their entirety.

And then, I want us all to ask ourselves: What do we do with the knowledge we now have?

(By the way, this isn’t like steaming open an envelope or hacking into an e-mail account: These were hardly secret conversations between besties. The messages were sent to an e-mail address that Stanford’s IT site identifies as a group mailing list, and the tone is of a guy addressing a large group of fellow partiers. It seems safe to assume that these charming messages were sent, if not to all his Kappa Sigma brothers, then to quite a large number of them.)

So now I will wait while you go and read the things I can’t have printed in this newspaper because of the vivid words used to describe what the alcohol they buy will do to sorority girls (hint: it involves getting them into a state that will cause them to want to have sex indiscriminately); paeans to alcoholic blacking out; how it feels to get so drunk that you soak that night’s sexual partner with urine; and finally, exhortations to the bros to aspirational sexual behavior that skirts the thin edge of rape.

So now that you are back, I would ask you to consider: Are these just words? Clearly there is a lot of hormonal prancing there. Yet, given what we know about binge drinking on campus, I think we all know that the references to blackouts are real. Aren’t the references to sexual domination and contempt real, too? And if we long ago acknowledged that what we now only coyly refer to as the N-word is a real word with real powers to hurt, then why do we feel differently about allowing ourselves, our daughters, our sisters to be called bitches and whores as if it were funny?

Parents: Maybe some of you are so rich that what goes on at college doesn’t matter. Others may be so lustful for the brand (Stanford in this case, but it could be almost anywhere) that the content of the actual experience is irrelevant. For the rest of you, however, now that you have read those e-mails, decide for yourself whether you might want to be slightly more engaged parents on this issue as well as slightly more demanding consumers of the institutions that are taking your $50,000 or so a year. (And if you think, as I know most of you will, that this is someone else’s school, someone else’s child, someone else’s fraternity and not yours, then you are smoking something stronger than your kids are. This past weekend I passed the e-mails around to eight 19- to 25-year-olds, including my own kids, and every one of them recognized something or someone he or she knew.)

Schools: I hope a lot of parents (and perhaps even as important, donors and recruiters) begin taking more seriously your responsibility for what is going on between their sons and daughters at your institutions. And I hope you are ready.

Young men: I completely agree with the #notallmen hashtag. It is clearly not all men who are this vile. You who are not need to stand up against those who are.

Young women: You are party to this, too. Read those e-mails. If you like what you see, keep going to those rages. Sex on your own terms is great, ladies. But are you sure it is on your terms? Is it sex you read in those e-mails, or power? Is that really where you want to be on the power spectrum?

Employers: Speaking of power, I would ask employers who recruit at fraternities to think about what it is they are buying. How will the contempt that these men express for women in these e-mails continue to infect your workplaces in the years to come?

When you recruit from places like Stanford’s Kappa Sigma, are you getting the “national network of hard working, respectful, and in most cases socially competent” men that the frat’s Web site promises? Or are you getting the filth and misogyny of the e-mails?

And does that matter to you?



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