Wednesday, May 22, 2019

The "In" Justice

I read the below editorial in The Washington Post and the points made are salient, appropriate and utterly correct.

I also agree that if you are giving a fetus personhood this means they have all the rights and entitlements of a full American Citizen.  This proposal is another one right on target.

And lastly if this is such a common procedure that the Right to Life fuckwits seem to believe it does not explain why many clinics cannot find providers willing and able to do said procedure. Due to some of the fanatics and their stalking and murdering Doctors doing so has already made this procedure challenging to say the least.  And this Doctor could not even get a lesson in how to preform one so again you would think we are just literally sucking babies out of wombs across the country for shits and giggles. 

So what is this about? Roe v Wade and naturally more oppression and denial of women's rights.  If you really want to help women be a man and stand up for your children conceived and born not ones that have been part of a personal private decision made by a woman who had to do for whatever reason she chooses.  SHE CHOOSES.

Men who impregnate women don’t face any consequences in the new abortion laws
That means more men like my father, who abandoned his family decades ago.

By Teri Carter
Teri Carter is a writer living in central Kentucky.

The Washington Post May 21 20119

I met my father at my mother’s funeral. I was 36 years old.

I was standing next to the open casket, greeting family and friends, when Aunt Mary grabbed my arm and pointed to a bearded man pacing back and forth behind a row of metal chairs. “Well, look who’s here,” she said. And when I failed to recognize the man she was pointing to, said, “Girl, that’s your dad!” and waved him over.

My father left my mother when I was a baby, before my first birthday. He was only 22, but his leaving marked both his second divorce and his second abandoned baby, providing no support, financial or otherwise. He simply disappeared.

So as Gov. Kay Ivey (R-Ala.) signed her state’s draconian antiabortion bill into law last week, I combed over the coverage with one specific angle in mind. I pored through the horrifying details about how doctors who performed an abortion could receive up to 99 years in prison, read there would be no exceptions for rape or incest, and learned that women and girls, no matter their age, would be required to carry a fetus to term. No exceptions.

But who’s missing in all of this? Men.

What I have yet to see in a single line in any of these new abortion bills — Alabama, Missouri, Kentucky, Georgia, Utah, Mississippi, Ohio, Arkansas — is accountability or penalties for the impregnators.

I was born and abandoned by my birth father in Cape Girardeau, Mo. When I was 6 years old, he signed away his parental rights — my stepfather wanted to adopt me — which had the added bonus of making him legally immune from both past and future child support.

Men like him in states like Missouri and Alabama don’t seem to be on anyone’s minds during this new rush to criminalize abortion. But they should be. A woman, after all, cannot get pregnant without a man’s sperm. This new definition of when life begins should be prompting a lot of questions about how the law really works when it comes to men’s moral and financial responsibility.

Where is the list of actions required, under penalty of law, for fathers? If life starts at conception, shouldn’t the father be required to pay for 50 percent of the medical bills incurred during pregnancy? If the father is not married to the mother, will she be allowed to use his health insurance plan? Can she claim the fetus on her taxes? Can she take out life insurance immediately and, if she miscarries, collect death benefits? Can the father? If the mother has a difficult pregnancy and cannot work or has to go on bed rest, will the father be required by law to support her financially? What will be the penalty for a father abandoning a fetus? How many years in prison? Will he have to pay a fine? If he has no money, will the state cover his child support payments? For how long?

After more than 35 years in absentia, my father finally showed up at the funeral home. I thought he looked familiar and vaguely recalled seeing him when I was about 17, but I couldn’t quite place him.

Standing next to my mother’s casket, we shook hands. He said, “Sorry about your mom.” And while I’m sure we both said more words, I no longer remember any of them. In the end, he pulled a business card from his wallet, wrote his number on the back in blue ballpoint ink and said, “Call us next time you’re in town.”

Who is us? I wondered.

I found out one day when I logged into Facebook and my father’s photo appeared under the words “People You May Know.” I clicked on his image and, with the magic that happens only in cyberspace, landed in my father’s life. There he was with his family: a wife, two sons, a daughter. I devoured his page. There were status updates on whether he’d be going to church that week, his inquiries about the health of friends, warnings of a coming thunderstorm (“a big one on it’s way!”) and some long banter with one of his sons about some inside joke.

I noted his birthday. My father has a birthday. How had I never known this? November 29. A Sagittarius. I typed the words “Sagittarius characteristics” into my browser and these traits appeared on my screen: magnanimous, honest, expansive, generous, reckless, extroverted, proud, larger than life, free.

Yes, free, I thought. Like so many men, he got off scot-free.

With these new antiabortion laws, we have prison time for doctors. We have humiliation and punishment for girls and women. What we don’t have are laws to address the impregnators, the abandoners, the shirkers of personal, social and financial responsibility.

My father was invisible for most of my life. Apparently, to the lawmakers in Alabama and Missouri and everywhere else who are so sure they know what’s best for women, that’s exactly how it should be.




Tuesday, May 21, 2019

So it goes



Much is made of the growth of the Southern states and what includes Texas with migration patterns of young millennial in search of affordable housing, well paying jobs and other work/life balance issues that seem to veer on tech access and nightlife.  Then they promptly live in an urban style suburban makeover until they realize that suburban life has yards, better schools and people just like them who cannot bar hop and trivia game anymore.   It is basically lather rinse repeat of their childhood.  There is one thing Millennial do better is re brand what already existed.  Taxi anyone? Whoops I mean Uber.

As I am ready to run for the door I laugh at the five units sold in my dump of an Apartment building, all millennial, all couples other than the one black man who should have asked about why it went condo in the first place.   But owning is one thing when taking money from anyone dumb enough to overpay for these units.

Millennial's  cannot be told no. They don't know that words existence and they want to erase any vocabulary or concepts that offend them. We have gender neutral pronouns, the elimination using adjectives and verbiage that could offend or upset anyone.  Wow how vanilla!   I really loathe talking to Millennial's and the nice thing is that the ones moving here are not smarter, better, brighter or any more liberal than their parents as most of them come from conservative religious homes.  Lather, rinse repeat.

Nashville is delusional like many Southern cities believing that people will come here and love it enough to overlook the batshit crazy laws and behaviors in the Legislature.  And yes they will if they are largely poorly educated underemployed and young. These are not active individuals engaged in the community.  Neither are working class families as they just want a decent school and an affordable open space concept home with a garage to put their SUV in.   Lather rinse repeat.

What they do is their version of activism that they started on college campuses, destroying professional lives and stifling free speech.  As the two Professors at Harvard just found out recently. The irony that they were the fist Black Professors ever to be hired on campus and next week the same students will have a diversity rally to hire more faces of color.  Meanwhile the culture of Harvard carries on.  Lather rinse repeat.

Meanwhile over at a sister Ivy League school, Yale, another Professor lost their gig over an email regarding Halloween costumes.   Then suddenly he is award winning.  Okay then I see that this is a priority clearly to the young privileged students. 

Or the odd Professor from Mizzou, which is where? Missouri home of the S&M Governor and now the fetal heartbeat law. Hey ya think the same Professor in the video is facing down the Legislature the same way she did with the reporter? 

And there are dozens of stories about Professors fired from their positions after ranting for or against some issue or another, using language in classrooms that for one is acceptable for another not so much.  I am sure we need to edit or burn Huckleberry Finn, Of Mice and Men, Uncle Tom's Cabin, Beloved, Gone with the Wind or well a lot of books.  I found this from 2011 and I agree in context it is a teachable moment unless you are a precious snowflake.


The Word ‘Nigger’ Is Part of Our Lexicon
Jill Nelson

Jill Nelson is the author of “Volunteer Slavery: My Authentic Negro Experience” and, most recently, “Finding Martha’s Vineyard: African Americans at Home on an Island.”

The New York Times January 6, 2011,

I live in a city where I probably hear the word “nigger” 50 times a day from people of all colors and ages, though primarily from young people on public transportation. It is a salutation, a term of affection, occasionally an epithet, but most often, I think, verbal filler, a younger generation’s equivalent of their elders use of “like” or “you know.”

Like it or not, and you know, that’s another conversation, the word is part of our public and private lexicon, and the notion that contemporary readers of Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer are surprised or offended by the word seems questionable. Yet even if they are, one of the intentions of art is to provoke and unsettle. Surely Mark Twain did not intend the "Adventures of Huckleberry Finn” to have the equivalent effect on readers of Margaret Wise Brown’s lovely and lulling children’s classic, “Goodnight Moon.”

There are vast differences between calling a character “nigger” and calling them “slave.” They are not interchangeable. Writers choose their words thoughtfully. Our words create, color, layer and texture and contextalize the stories we tell. The notion that one can change one of those carefully chosen words -- much less 219 of them -- to suit their perception of contemporary mores and eliminate the possibility of hurt sensibilities is an abdication of a teacher’s responsibility to illuminate and guide students through an unfamiliar and perhaps difficult text. What’s next? Substituting orange for red in a painter’s work because some observers find red too aggressive?

Meanwhile these same adorable children will move to Austin, Houston, to Nashville, to Atlanta, to Charlotte, Charleston and other hip cool cities that the State Legislature is passing hate crime bills.  As in pro hate.

Texas just found the Transgendered woman who was beaten and spoke out about taking on haters has been found shot to death.    While simultaneously their State Legislature is passing the Chick-fil-A bill.  Good times for those who are not of the "norm." 

Meanwhile the spokesperson of the Millennial mindset, Mark Zuckerberg, is working to fix his source of hate and lies to be less so. Get right on that!

We cannot have a world where only people of color can say or write or draw people of color. That white people are only to be apologetic and liberal and vanilla.  We cannot have a world where we speak only one language, practice on faith and fuck the opposite sex who is the same color, class and genetic makeup as each other.  Saw how well that worked out on Game of Thrones now!

Change comes from those willing to fight it. No, Amazon will not do the heavy lifting for you.  You will not see the corporate leaders take a position on social issues that will ultimately affect its bottom line unless people are willing to really boycott, really stand up and advocate and what? Lather, rinse and repeat these arguments until real systemic change has been met.  I have never touched a Chick-fil-A food item, never eaten a Papa Johns pizza and I go out of my way to avoid paying sales tax on items to not fund anything beyond my basic needs - food and booze (I live here I need to drink).  I rent cars and rent a home.  I have made sure my footprint here is very light and I have no desire to extend my stay here beyond the day I am done.  The schools here I call a volunteer job with a per Diem.  I don't have one good thing to say about Nashville so I don't veil my loathing with such vague words as interesting, different or fascinating.  I go: I hate it here and this right wing religious shit being shoved down my throat is making me hate myself.   They don't even bother with the passive aggressive "Bless You're Heart" anymore as they know I don't give one fuck about their opinion.

So young folks what are you going to do about the hate, the oppression from sexual freedom to voting rights to women's choice?  Not a goddamn thing as it takes work and time and you have to post your shit on Facebook and Instagram to those who don't actually give a shit. I don't I care about the bigger issues in the bigger picture, yours is small like your attention center.